Monday, June 3, 2013

Teaching Skeletons To Dance

Since January, I have been making some life changes and changes in mindset. It has been educational, and all of my opinions have been put to the test. Why do I feel this why? Or why do I think that? Do I really, or did I form that opinion because I thought I was supposed to or because someone wanted me to think that?

My current life philosophy is to pretty much do what makes me happy - within reason. Lines have been drawn, but at least I drew them for myself. But in December, right when everything was hitting the fan, I drew up a little list of things, rules almost, to live by.


  1. Have a firm handshake.
  2. Look people in the eye.
  3. Sing in the shower.
  4. Own a great stereo system.
  5. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
  6. Keep secrets.
  7. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.
  8. Always accept an outstretched hand.
  9. Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
  10. Whistle, hum, or sing constantly. Music is good for the soul.

  1. Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.
  2. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
  3. Lend only those books you never care to see again.
  4. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.
  5. When playing games with children, let them win.
  6. Give people a second chance, but not a third.
  7. Be romantic.
  8. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  9. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
  10.  Avoid sarcastic remarks, unless you're in the appropriate setting.
  1. Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It’s there for our convenience, not the caller’s.
  2. Be a good loser.
  3. Be a good winner.
  4. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
  5. When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
  6. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
  7. Keep it simple.
  8. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
  9. Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
  10. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets


  1. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
  2. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
  3. Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.
  4. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
  5. Begin each day with some of your favorite music.
  6. Once in a while, take the scenic route.
  7. Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, ‘Someone who thinks you’re terrific.
  8.  Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice. 
  9.  Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.
  10.  Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.


  1. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
  2. Take fashion risks  - because why not? Mix prints like a madman
  3. Make someone’s day by paying for the person in the car behind you.
  4. Become someone’s hero.
  5. Marry only for love.
  6. Count your blessings.
  7. Compliment the meal when you’re a guest in someone’s home.
  8. Wave at the children on a school bus.
  9. Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.
  10. Don’t expect life to be fair.

There are days when I miss the stability of being a child, or of being in a relationship. But then I think of the opportunities I have been afforded because of all the new risks I am taking. But there are also days when it is damn scary to have literally no money. I ran out of gas for the first time a couple of days ago!

 I've got some skeletons in my closet. But none that I am ashamed of. I have been enjoying living life and actually taking care of myself. It is freeing to know that no one is going to tell you what to do, how to dress, what auditions to go. It really is.

But those skeletons are still there. But there is a new sentiment I like:


Teach that sucker to dance! Take him out, dust it off, throw on some dance shoes, and jive with it.

Love,

Chloé